More than ever, today everyone demands honesty, sincerity and clarity from everyone at any time. Even us Italians are fed up with ambiguity, promises that are never kept and those “we’ll make arrangements later on” deals that often end up meaning a higher price than the one you were supposed to pay.
Emerson used to say “defend your integrity as if it were sacred”.
In my book I often talk about being. It is not a new concept, I just adopted it and used it for my purposes. All around the being, I say there is believing. Then there is doing.
What we do is the result of what we are and what we believe in.
Those who practice NLP like me know that sometimes we become what we do, and this is why it’s important to be honest and behave coherently.
We all make mistakes. We all go against our own values. It happens at times, we are human and thank God we are not perfect. If we were, we would be elsewhere (and we’d be terribly boring!).
Everyone is talking about leadership, I have been studying it for years because I’m fascinated by the topic.
I think we’ve been missing it lately and we really do need it.
I am not talking about leadership as an ability to have followers or create a movement, I am talking about the ability, or better the habit, to have trust.
In my audio book I state leadership is a verb. It is, in fact, the result of decisions you take all the time.
What do I have to do to have your trust and respect? I suppose I have to keep my promises, And you, what do you have to do to respect yourself, to have self esteem? The same thing.
Have you ever been disappointed or angered by your best friend? Have you forgiven her? If the answer is yes, you did it over time because over time she showed you she was a reliable person and that that event was an exception to the rule that was moved to the past.
Coherence is a sure sign of integrity and is built over time. Not once in a while. As in the example of a friend who disappointed you, if you are coherent with yourself, you will be able to forgive yourself (and be forgiven) for the human mistakes you will make sooner or later.
Coherence, I think, shows in two ways. Being honest in time, having the guts to admit we are wrong and apologize, too.
It’s a time of crisis, change and evolution, I hope. All of us, and Italy, are called to sacrifice in order to get over these tough times. Maybe we could all commit to a little more honesty, coherence and the will to make up for our mistakes.
I know, let someone else start, I know, you have been doing it and it doesn’t look like it’s working.
Maybe those who say it’s not worth it are right, I think it is. Maybe I’m wrong, but I prefer to believe and have a go.
Do you want to be wrong with me?
Have a good week.